Romantic Black-Tie Wedding at The Crosby Rancho Santa Fe


Asafe and Kaytie’s lovely black-tie affair at the beautiful Crosby Club in Rancho Santa Fe was one for the books. The classic architecture and lush greens were oozing with romantic beauty. The bride and her mother’s hard work on event design that went into this wedding was inspiring, and the hearts of the bride and groom and their loved ones were absolutely beautiful. It was a photographers dream to capture these memories. All this to say, that is only the beginning of a heart-warming wedding story, which is about more than just love and romance, but also about the precious moments that life brings to us, often manifested in big days such as these.


From the Mother-of-the-Bride:

Kaytie and Asafe’s Santa Barbra style wedding, amongst the golf course and polo fields of The Crosby Club in Rancho Santa Fe, was the beautiful culmination of a very long journey rich with meaning; the likes of which screenplays are written. In fact Kaytie Scarlett, the bride, grew up watching every Bing Crosby movie and pinned the charismatic actor to her girlhood corkboards. Blending both modern and romantic elements and taking her cue from the bride herself, who is a delightful combination of both modern and romantic, the mother of the bride chose to weave elements which were meaningful, contemporary, and romantic. The only request Kaytie Scarlett made was for there to be lavender (both fresh and dried) at the wedding, as well as peony’s ~ her favorite flower. 

Wearing a veil sown by her Aunt and a trumpet gown by Oleg Cassini, the radiant bride walked down the aisle toward her groom with a bouquet of Peonies, lavender stock and lambs ear; the blooms signifying a long and happy marriage. Lavender, which means “love, devotion, and loyalty”, was not only used in the floral arrangements and boutonnieres but each guest was given a muslin pouch of the fragrant blossoms to shower the newly announced Mr. and Mrs. during the ceremony! Needless to say, not only was there love in the air, but the delicious and heady fragrance of lavender also hung in the air and delighted friends and loved ones alike.

The bride and groom were gifted with a professional triple tired cake with modern lines and truly delicious and unique fillings like guava, pistachio! A picture of the Brides beloved, late grandmother was lovingly placed next to the wedding cake at the request of the bride.

Before guests danced the night away, they dined at tables adorned with manzanita trees adorned with paper roses. Also rich with meaning as paper is made from wood in much the same way as woman was made from man. From the manzanita branches hung mercury glass vases and chandeliers which held candles as well as peony and lavender sprays.

The grand exit was made in a true Hollywood romantic style, with the bride and groom exiting under a sparkling tunnel of romantic light. Truly a blissful beginning which dreams are made of; would Bing approve……oh, I think so!



Just one week before Kaytie planned to walk down the isle to Asafe with her arm linked to her father’s, the fires broke out throughout San Diego county. Three of the fires surrounded the wedding venue, and for days they were nowhere near being contained. What was more worrisome was that Kaytie’s father was out there fighting the flames with hundreds of other heroes we have to thank. All she could think of was getting her sweet dad back home safely to walk her down that isle and kiss her on the cheek before he gave her away. Through many prayers and the hard, long hours worked by firefighters throughout Southern California, we were blessed with more promising weather and containment went up dramatically until they were all put out. Being able to witness her dad walk her to Asafe in her pretty white dress was a beautiful moment I was blessed to share with them.


From the Bride…

Our Santa Barbara style wedding at the beautiful Crosby Club was the dream wedding that I had been dreaming of my whole life. Our vision for the wedding was something romantic to fit the feel of the old Hollywood style of the Crosby, but something modern that would fit our style. Everything was absolutely perfect, even the little details such as the touches of lavender all throughout the ceremony and reception. Before the wedding  my seven lovely bridesmaids and I got pampered with getting our hair and makeup done all while sipping on mimosas, talking about old times, and how we couldn’t believe that in a few short hours I would be getting married! When it came time to put my beautiful Oleg Cassini designer weddingdress on, I was a bundle of excited nerves; “this is it!” I kept thinking, “These are the moments I’ve been waiting for and picturing my whole life.” My beautiful mom and sweet sisters helped me slip my dress on, put my beautiful jewelry on–which included my “something old” pearl bracelet with vintage diamonds which belonged to one of my great grandma’s back in the early 1900’s and my beautiful hand-sown cathedral vail that my sweet aunt had sown for me. Those moments with them I will always treasure. Then, the time came for me to walk down the aisle with my dad– something I will always keep in my heart. It’s such a big moment in a girl’s life to have her dad give her away and I’m such a lucky girl to have experienced that. I purposed in my heart the moment I woke up on my wedding day to take time to remember every moment of our day. From the sweet look on my groom’s face as I walked down the aisle towards him, to the absolutely stunning modern but romantic feel of all the flowers and decor of the ceremony, and the beautiful manzanita branches that adorned all the tables with the elegant accent of the jewels hanging from the branches with beautiful twinkling lights. Everything that was used in the wedding had a special meaning to me, such as the choice of flowers. Peonies being my favorite flowers and lavender being my favorite scent. They also have distinct meanings like “love, loyalty and devotion.” I had a beautiful picture of my grandma on her own wedding day, who was watching from heaven placed right next to our beautiful three-tiered cake. It was a sweet reminder that she was there in spirit. Our reception was the party of the year; everyone danced the night away including my 80 year old grandparents! The reception patio was decorated with hanging white Chinese lanterns and hanging lights, fun pillows on the couches saying “Mr. And Mrs.” and “They Lived Happily Ever After.” There were gorgeous arrangements everywhere! When the last song played, it was “Without You” by David Guetta, a song that has a lot of meaning to us. Everyone formed a circle around us and cheered and danced the last song with us before they sent us on our way. When the song was over, the Dj gathered all the guests outside for a grand exit complete with sparklers and everyone’s loving smiles and cheers. It was a beautiful ending to the most perfect, fun, and romanticwedding. I Thank God everyday for blessing me with the memory that I will always have in my heart. The day that I married the man of my dreams and the love of my life.

Vendor Love:

Ceremony & Reception Venue: The Crosby at Rancho Santa Fe
Wedding Coordinator: Lauren Pollard
DJ: Adam with Pacific Entertainment
Florals: Stunning Floral
Cake: Have Your Cake and Eat It

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